Guilt. I have yet to meet a mama who hasn’t felt guilty about something at some point.
It’s this constant companion that just won’t go away. It nags us about all the things we should be doing instead of the very thing we are doing. And, if you ignore it in the moment, it will only berate you later.
Whether it is not taking enough time to burp your baby so he’s not gassy, spending too much time on your phone instead of watching your tyke pull herself up or leaving the office right at five so you can see your babe before bedtime…
Our guilt is a product of the world around us. It comes from our observations, the conversations we have, and the things we watch. And, it’s only made worse by what other people say and don’t say. A disapproving look from a stranger on the train as you push your stroller aboard or a friend’s husband telling you his wife wouldn’t dare travel overseas for work because she’d miss the kids too much…
Left uncheck guilt can overtake us and have us stray farther and farther away from the very things we want and need to be the very best mama our babes so very much deserve.
I have felt immense guilt since becoming a mama to my two girls (Isabella now 6 and Elia 4). Most of it has been centered on my attempts to balance all the things I want for myself as a career-conscious woman with all the love I want to give my family.
It’s reduced me to tears more times that I care to admit. It has left me doubting myself over and over again, asking the mirror, “What is wrong with you?”
What’s worse, I’ve watched countless other mamas and mamas-to-be struggle with guilt. I’ve seen them chart down a path that they didn’t really want, unraveling under the pressure of trying to appease the impossible-to-satisfy beast of guilt.
We will never do away with guilt completely, but we can give it a well-deserved time-out. In today’s episode of The Crazy Good Life, learn the two questions that can help you put your guilt into perspective so you can get back to doing all the things that make you your happiest self.
Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you experienced mama guilt? What helped you overcome it?
Be as specific as you can in your comment. Your share just may spark the breakthrough another deserving mama really needs today.
Thank you for reading and watching.
P.S. If you know another mama who is battling guilty demons, please share this episode with them.