Millennial dads are changing the face of daddy-hood. Unlike previous generations, their role isn’t limited to financially providing for their families. Instead, they want to fully participate in raising their children.
We’re seeing it in the rising number of stay at home dads. In Canada, stay at home dads accounted for 1 in 10 families where there was one parent at home in 2015. (The ratio was closer to 1 in 70 in 1976.) What’s more, dads have doubled the time they spend on household chores and nearly tripled the time spent with their children.
The trends are definitely going in the right direction. But, the truth remains that, today, women in heterosexual relationships do the majority of childrearing and household chores – no matter how much they work or earn outside the home.
This dynamic is hurting women professionally. Men are losing out, too.
Creating a more equitable, workable partnership is up to both men and women. Here’s how moms can help:
Give them time to learn
For the most part, moms take the available maternity leave. During your leave, you get to know your baby – how he likes to be held, burped and changed, and much more. Dads, who in better case scenarios only have a few days or weeks off, lose out on this opportunity. So, it’s important to find time for dad to bond with their child so he, too, can learn what he likes or dislikes.
There’s more than one way to do something right
Sometimes women stand in our own way of progress. Maternal gatekeeping is a case in point. It’s the idea that moms believe that they – not dad – are better equipped to care for their children or their households. Not true. Yet too many of us criticize efforts or take over when things aren’t done the way we like. It’s time to change our thinking so we don’t push dad away from taking a more involved and active role in parenting.
Just because we can have it all doesn’t mean we need to do it all. Creating a more equitable and workable partnership at home, starts with intentionally delegating chores between you and your partner. Sure, this is one way to get men who are less inclined to take on these responsibilities on duty. But, it’s equally important to do in partnerships where men already take on some of the duties. This way you both are clear on what needs to get done and who will take on both the mental and physical labor that it comes with.
Watch this episode of The Crazy Good Life to learn more about how you can help your baby’s daddy be the fatehr you and your baby need.
Now I’d love to hear from you. In the comments, tell us how your partner gets involved in baby duty in the early days and today?