The New Year brings with it a sense of renewal and the possibility to get things right.
And, after the year we’ve had – one that many are calling the worst year ever – the idea of being able to do things differently, if not better, in 2017 is appealing to many of us.
Yet, I’m not a fan of resolutions.
There’s just so much pressure to lose weight, to stop eating sugar or to work out more that every time I resolve to do so I often fail before I begin.
It seems those resolutions don’t work for me – maybe their too hard or perhaps they just don’t fit into my day-to-day life. Or, maybe they just don’t truly help me where I need it most.
So, instead of resolutions, I use this time to commit – and in many instances, recommit – to the things that will help make my life easier, more enjoyable, and leave me feeling good about myself.
Here are five resolutions you can consider for 2017.
1. Drop the mom guilt
There isn’t a mama I’ve spoken with who hasn’t told me about something that they’ve felt guilty about. It seems to be a constant, nagging companion. And, at times, it forces us to go down a path that doesn’t really serve us or our families.
While I don’t think any of us will be able to completely stop mom guilt this year, I do think a little perspective can go a long way in quieting the worries and doubts that are bouncing around in our heads. Here are two questions that will help you get the perspective you need.
2. Stop pressuring yourself
Much of the guilt we feel as mothers comes from the debate that rages on about whether women can have it all. The mere fact that women’s desires to be more than a mother are questioned, leaves us second guessing everything we do. Then, to compensate, we take on more at work and at home, trying to prove how we can be the epitome of the perfect mother and the perfect employee.
Isn’t it time, you gave yourself a bit of a break? If you’re ready, check out my past posts on how to get over superwoman syndrome and how you can have it all.
3. Support other moms
If there is one thing I most dislike about being part of the mom club, it’s the mommy wars. There continues to be too many examples of moms shaming other mothers. Parenting is hard – really hard, sometimes. And, the fact is, we are all just trying to do our best.
So, this year, let’s give each other a break. Let’s stop judging and criticizing. Instead, let’s come together in solidarity to support other women and mothers. Here are three easy ways you can begin to do your part.
4. Find a mentor
Just as important as it is to support other women and mothers, you need a supportive network of your very own. You need people who will help spot opportunities, provide a new perspective and help you grow so you can achieve all the things you want in 2017 and beyond.
The right mentor can do that and so much more. The truth is, however, that finding a mentor is not always easy, so take a watch of this episode of The Crazy Good Life to learn how you can find your very own mentor.
5. Date your partner
Relationships are never easy, but having a baby can put a real dent in the romance department. And, it doesn’t end once your baby isn’t a baby anymore. You’re busy, you’re tired and there’s always something else to do or someone else to think about.
So, why not take this year to commit to spending a bit more adult time with your partner. It doesn’t have to always be fancy, but making time for each other can go a long way in bringing real joy back into your life. Check out these tips on how you can rekindle that spark with your partner.
Are any of these resolutions inspiring you to take action? Any others you think we working moms should consider? Let us know in the comments below.
I wish you a fantastic, healthy 2017!