Guilt. I have yet to meet a mama who hasn’t felt guilty about something at some point.

It’s this constant companion that just won’t go away. It nags us about all the things we should be doing instead of the very thing we are doing. And, if you ignore it in the moment, it will only berate you later.

Whether it is not taking enough time to burp your baby so he’s not gassy, spending too much time on your phone instead of watching your tyke pull herself up or leaving the office right at five so you can see your babe before bedtime…

Our guilt is a product of the world around us. It comes from our observations, the conversations we have, and the things we watch. And, it’s only made worse by what other people say and don’t say. A disapproving look from a stranger on the train as you push your stroller aboard or a friend’s husband telling you his wife wouldn’t dare travel overseas for work because she’d miss the kids too much…

Left uncheck guilt can overtake us and have us stray farther and farther away from the very things we want and need to be the very best mama our babes so very much deserve.

I have felt immense guilt since becoming a mama to my two girls (Isabella now 6 and Elia 4). Most of it has been centered on my attempts to balance all the things I want for myself as a career-conscious woman with all the love I want to give my family.

It’s reduced me to tears more times that I care to admit. It has left me doubting myself over and over again, asking the mirror, “What is wrong with you?”

What’s worse, I’ve watched countless other mamas and mamas-to-be struggle with guilt. I’ve seen them chart down a path that they didn’t really want, unraveling under the pressure of trying to appease the impossible-to-satisfy beast of guilt.

We will never do away with guilt completely, but we can give it a well-deserved time-out. In today’s episode of The Crazy Good Life, learn the two questions that can help you put your guilt into perspective so you can get back to doing all the things that make you your happiest self.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you experienced mama guilt? What helped you overcome it?

Be as specific as you can in your comment. Your share just may spark the breakthrough another deserving mama really needs today.

Thank you for reading and watching.

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5 comments on “Do you struggle with mommy guilt? Watch this.”

  1. I had tremendous guilt after I couldn’t breastfeed my second son due to the fact that I had to start medications to help me with postpartum depression and anxiety. My doctor told me I could continue to breastfeed and take the medication but I didn’t want to take that risk.

    With my first son, I breastfed an entire year so he was able to get the benefits of my breast milk during the formative 12 months. However, the year was filled with anxious thoughts, debilitating panic attacks and frightening mood swings. I wasn’t prepared to go through that again – but so I started taking medication right after I gave birth to my second son. I felt guilt – my family told me to continue – it wasn’t fair to my baby – but I didn’t feel like I wanted to.

    • I failed to mention – while this was a major source of guilt at the time – both from others (family) and self induced, it doesn’t bother me at all now. My youngest is now 4 and thriving alongside his brother, there are no health differences and now I see that I really shouldn’t have been so concerned with guilt.

      • Hi Michelle, I’m sooooo glad you’re free of that guilt! It was completely unearned; totally undeserved. I’m sorry you had to go through that and I can’t imagine how difficult the decision was to get the help you needed. But, I am glad that you chose to get healthy. Formula can easily replace breastmilk; but there isn’t an alternative mama for your little guy.

  2. I always feel so much guilt when I let my kids watch too much TV. I have a medical condition that puts me in constant pain and fatigue and most days its just the easy way out so I can rest. But it has become such a go-to move that even on days when I feel good, they are so into TV that its hard to get them away from it. I know there are so many more productive things I could be doing with them in those times but I just don’t have it in me! Question 2 in youe video is hard for me because what I “need” to be a good mama is to rest and to get better. And God only knows when that will be. I know they have a great life, we do tons of fun stuff with them, they eat well, they are loved and I know they will be fine but every day I have to CONSTANTLY remond myself of that because I always feel like I’m not giving them every thing they need or deserve!

    • Hi Robyn… thanks for sharing your guilt. Your struggle brought tears to my eyes. Your emotion and love for your children is apparent in every word you typed out. You love your children to the moon and back and of course you want the best for them. Other than food and roof over their heads, what your kids need most is your love and you can only give them that if you are rested and feeling well. So the next time you take a rest while they catch up on their fav show, think about how you are helping them by taking care of you. They need you and your love for years to come and the only way you’ll be able to do that is if you keep well. xxLisa

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